I was boy crazy in high school, were you?

by | Nov 15, 2019 | Memoir, Resilient Ruin | 8 comments

It was difficult to write Resilient Ruin: a memoir of hopes dashed and reclaimed, and, since it was launched a few days before the 2016 presidential election (such bad timing, a mistake I won’t repeat) it has been even more difficult to promote the book. It covers painful territory.

Resilient Ruin by Laura McHale Holland

I was confused, awkward, missing my deceased father, contending with an abusive stepmother who was unraveling emotionally and physically, not the least bit interested in schoolwork, and somehow under the impression that if I had the right boyfriend everything would be just fine. This quest for a boyfriend backfired hugely, and I slid downhill fast, blaming myself the whole time.

The value in writing a memoir like this is when others see pieces of themselves in the book and, as a result, feel less alone and more able to love who they are.

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  1. Marie Judson

    I, too, was boy crazy in high school, though pretty quiet about it. I can’t wait to read the finished follow up to Reversible Skirt. Your post gives me new insight into the book (since I’ve read parts of it in draft form!). That tells me eloquently how a small comment can direct the reader’s mind, lending coherence to the endeavor. What a job it is, sometimes, to find those key little remarks (read *blurb*)!

  2. Laura

    Thanks, Marie, for sharing your thoughts on my post. I think posts like this are another way for us writers to share our journey with people who might be interested in our work. We all have many stories or at least anecdotes connected to our work, both having to do with how we feel or things that occur while creating a book, and all that happens (or doesn’t happen) once the work is out in the world.

  3. Vicki Batman

    I had uglies so bad I was terrified by boys. By 15, i had grown and had friends that were boys.

  4. Charlene D Jones

    Yes, I was boy crazy in high school. It was uplifting and exciting to date. Then my soul reached out into my life and grabbed me by the legs changing my course of direction so thoroughly I’m not sure I ever made it out of high school. In fact I often these days feel as though I am still in high school and from what I see around me, notice others in the same time zone!
    And I’m still boy crazy…boys make me crazy.

  5. Laura

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Charlene. I see the poet in you shining through clearly.

  6. Laura

    Having friends that were boys sounds healthy to me, Vicki. I had a few good friends who were boys, too, and since I didn’t have any brothers they meant a lot to me. The one I loved most used to call me “Sis”; we were so close and leaned on each other a lot. He shared his girl troubles, and I shared my boy troubles.

  7. Mary Knight

    This makes me think waay back, it’s hard. I had a few crushes. And then, three boys – it wasn’t craziness, it was an awakening–as in why would they like me and what do I do about it. They went to college and I never saw them again. :) I hope those tender memories will stay with me.

  8. Laura

    I hope those tender memories stay with you, too, Mary. I expect if you’ve kept them all these years, you’ll continue to have them.

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